- You must understand that marriage is not for a child. It is for men who are mature. Even if your wife is still very young in age, the responsibility of guiding her is yours.
2. Most times women are like children in the way they reason. If you want to react to everything they say or do, you are only making yourself unfit to be a man. A mature man must be able to endure his wife.
3. Calling yourself the head of the family is not to be used to intimidate your wife. As the head you must provide for her needs. And when she is weak you must be strong. You shouldn’t take her weakness to be the reason for your failure to provide for the house.
4. I’m not saying that a wife should not provide for the house if she has, I’m saying that you should not take advantage of the benevolence of your wife. Never overstress your wife with responsibility that should be handled by a man. You should understand that being a man is not a joke.
5. Prayer for the family is not meant for a woman alone. In the morning gather the family and pray with them. As the head of the family you must bless your wife. You must pronounce words of blessings on your children as well. This pattern of life has a way of regulating the behaviors of all of you.
6. Being the head of the family doesn’t make your wife an inferior sex that you can talk to without regards. You are the head just to regulate how things are to be done. It is not that you’re superior to her in the sense of our being. A successful marriage is when the husband and wife compliment themselves. It is not when the man is acting like an emperor to his wife.
7. While at home be jovial with your wife. Don’t claim to be too busy with the things you ought to have done in your office, just because you don’t want to have time with your wife. This kind of lifestyle is not suitable for a family desiring to be at peace.
8. Learn to spend time with your family at home. This attitude of running out from the house claiming that your friend is calling on you, even when you were having an important thing to do in the house, is one of the attitudes you must stop from now. Learn to tell your friends to wait because you’re with your wife. It is important you give your wife the respect she deserves.
9. Some of the wicked things done by the wives are caused by their husbands. Don’t do anything that will push your wife to the world, because if they go and test what is in the world, they may find it difficult to come back to the house with the characters they had before. Even if you have changed your ways. It will take you time to erase the experience she had from a caring man while she went into the world..
10. Don’t leave a life of keeping your wife at home all alone. Only to spend your whole day with friends in a bar. How would you feel if you were the wife?! What you wouldn’t want her to do to you, don’t do to her. She is your wife and not a maid.
11. Yes we all know that things are hard, but that shouldn’t stop you from giving money to your wife to buy some stuff for herself. Giving her money for feeding is not enough. It is just a responsibility and not an expression of love.
12. If you really love her as you always claim you do, ensure you give her money to take care of herself. So that when other women talk about how nice their husbands are to them, your wife will also have something to show.
13. Don’t always say “she’s working let her buy those things for herself”. You should know that women and money are like 5&6. No matter what they might get from their sweat, without you adding your own it can never be complete. Of course that’s how it should be. These little cares are what they want.
14. Don’t make the mistake of taking your wife’s love for you for granted. If she loves you, just continue to do things that will make her keep on the love. The very day she will begin to hate, know that the end to the marriage is near, if she sees poison she can poison your food.
15. Don’t ever wish to see the other side of a woman who was in love with you. If she wants to hate, she will hate twice the amount of how she had loved. That is why you shouldn’t toil with their love.
16. Why is it that you don’t want her to check the contents of your phone, but when she keeps her own you will hide and check? What is really on your phone that makes you guide it more than how you guide your child? Let your conscience be your judge today.
17. Don’t be “Mr Nice” outside and claim not to have money when you are in the house. You know that the bulk of your money should be used at home, the little left over, you can use it to drink with friends. This is how responsible husbands behave.
18. From time to time take your family to beautiful sites for leisure. Buy some snacks and drinks for the kids. A bottle of wine and some meat or some plates of fish can go well for you and your wife. These are the secrets of a happy marriage you have been praying to have.
19. As a husband, it is good you understand, that when they talk of a happy marriage, it is not when there’s plenty of money to spend. A happy marriage means a man has been able to perform his duty with a little money at his disposal without complaints. Too many complaints detest the mind.
20. Try to understand that about 80% of the marital problems are caused by the husbands. Every little thing that happened, you take it as a serious case with your wife. You make your children panic and feel uncomfortable anytime you are with them at home. Instead of celebrating your being at home, they are praying for you to leave the house. This makes the burden of managing the home to be too much for your wife to bear. Before you know it, issues will come. How can such a family be at peace?
21. Since when have you told your wife, “darling or my love you are beautiful”? Sometimes women love such an admiration more than money. It makes her feel that she is still really loved by her husband. If you keep doing this, “I love you” from another man will not mean anything to her.
22. If she makes her hair, you should appreciate the style. Tell her that she is looking younger than before. Tell her that you thank God for making her your wife. Your meal for that day would be special from the previous ones she has been giving to you. That is when you will know that women are not so difficult to handle when there’s love.
23. It is not a good thing to warn your wife not to relate with people from her side. Marriage is not a separation, but an expansion of love. A man who cannot unite his family with that of his wife, has failed in his responsibility as a man.
24. When you want to do something consult your wife. Listen to her and appreciate her input. Even if you will not take all her suggestions, at least you have heard her mind. It will guide you in what you are doing.
25. As a man you must make the family fun enough. If you have a car, carry your wife and drive around the town. It is not every time you must carry the kids along with you. This one is the time for the husband to enjoy her man. Because there are some funny discussions that can take place that would not be healthy for a child. That’s why sometimes you must keep your kids at home while you flex.
26. You don’t enjoy life because you’re rich. It’s how much you can package yourself. Even #3,000 can give you the joy that a man with #100,000 cannot achieve. So don’t deny your family some moments of joy.
27. Know that you are a man. Some of your pains conceal in your heart. Too many complaints in the house, will make your wife so uncomfortable to stay with you. Because even to ask you money to buy foodstuff, she would be so afraid to ask. Yet, it’s something you know you should do.
28. Don’t leave a life of borrowing money from your wife. If you should, ensure you refund it on time. The attitude of not refunding the debt gotten from the wife, has been the problem of some homes even till date. You must not allow it to be an issue in your house. If you borrow money, make sure you pay. It’s only irresponsible people that refuse to pay their debts.
29. If you are working and your wife is not. Make sure you engage her with something to do. Either you open a shop for her to run, or you look for a business that will help her make some money on her own. Don’t forget the saying that “an idle mind is a devil workshop.” I pray it should not be a portion of your wife.
30. If you really love your wife, you should not hide your resources from her. Most times women can manage wealth more than men. So learn to include them in the project you are doing.
31. Love your wife and care for her, so that your children will learn from you; how to become caring husbands and submissive wives during their time. If you do this the world would be good.
Keep this advice and meditate on them. It would be well with you if you obey.
Ma Vera
Your write up always speak volume of wisdom. Thank you for building nations with your wisdom.